Political Conflict: How Can We Help the Children?

America has been struggling with political conflict. 

As teachers and parents, how can we help the students through these difficult times?

 

 

There has always been conflict in our world. Unfortunately, it seems like there's a lot more lately.

I hate to give away my age, but I remember quite a few instances of conflict and pain, including these assassinations: John Kennedy, Martin Luther King, Bobby Kennedy. 

 

I was teaching during the Challenger explosion, Columbine, numerous school shootings, and teaching drills such as lockdown, shelter in place, evacuation, and reverse evacuation.

My own daughter remembers 9/11, various school shootings and other mass shootings, the Boston Marathon bombing (while living in Boston), various hurricanes and wildfires, Black Lives Matter protests, and now, the attack on the U.S. Capitol. Young adults in her age group are very familiar with violence, unfortunately.

There are no perfect answers on how to deal with events like this, but here are some things to think about:

Every child is different, and every child has his or her own tolerance for what they can handle. I personally don't believe in giving children any more information than they can handle, and this is a rocky road. It's important to give them true information in the form of facts, but be careful not to give too much information that will confuse or upset them. Avoid letting them watch the news, as many children don't have the tools to cope with what they see. Approach with caution! 

In order to understand what they know and how to help, it's important to listen to them. Find out what they understand and what needs clarification. Ask questions. Learn more about what's going on with them. What are they thinking? Help them.

There are all sorts of mixed feelings these children might be experiencing. They may not even understand what they are feeling. We need to have lots of conversations, giving them a chance to explore and express their feelings. Art is a great way to let out feelings. Let them draw, paint, or create something to help them figure out what they are feeling.

As the children explore their feelings, help them identify what they're feeling by sharing your own. If they are confused, tell a story about when you were confused about your own feelings. If they are frightened, tell them about a time you were frightened. Even better? Include information about how you dealt with those feelings.

This one is so hard! I assure you, both sides of any conflict truly believe they are saying and doing what is right. Families of all your students belong to both sides of any conflict. It's important to keep opinions out of the classroom. But it's important for children to know that breaking the law or causing harm to others is never OK. One of my most valuable teaching lessons was learned while taking my students on a field trip to the local police station. When children asked about what happens to "bad people," they were answered with this comment: "There are no bad people, just people who made bad choices."

One or two good conversations might be enough for some children, but there are others who need a constant checking in. You know your students. Watch them closely. There may need to be frequent check-ins with several children to make sure they're OK. Some may need private conversations. Some may need group conversations. Morning meetings are great places to have these conversations.

Children do open up in many situations. For some, it's a group discussion, such as Morning Meeting. For others, it's expressing themselves with art or music. Sometimes, a distraction is just what they need. Amazing conversations happen while simply playing board games. (My favorite is Apples to Apples... and I use the excuse that they're practicing reading skills, so I squeeze it into reading group time!)

Books are also an awesome way to get children to open up, and figure out the words to explain how they are feeling. It might be tough to find perfect books for the perfect situation, but reading some "feel good" books would be a great idea. You know these books... old favorites, happy endings, upbeat, joyful, and heartwarming. The kind of story that makes the children feel safe.
 

Things I truly believe:

• Most people have good souls.
• The children's mental health is far more important than academics.
• They need to be heard, and they need to be loved.
  
• Good will prevail.

 

 

Let's Start Rowing in the Same Direction

I don't know what your teaching situation is right now, but I know a whole lot of people are struggling to find the best thing for the children's education. A teacher in Long Island, NY was quoted by saying this: 

If you want to read more of that quote, see HERE: 

I saw this shared on Twitter from @TeacherGoals

I guess,  no matter how much experience you have in the classroom, no matter how hard you work, no matter how many tricks you have up your sleeves, this year is going to be quite a challenge! 

Here are a few thoughts I have about the  upcoming school year: 

 

It's not going to be perfect for anyone!

I know, after such a difficult spring semester, the kids need to go back to school. Online learning is difficult for kids. "Zoom fatigue" sets in. It's hard for them to pay attention. Parents need to go back to work. Children need socialization. 

Yes, these are all true, but the "back to school" we are seeing with Social Distance restrictions is a far cry from what school has been. Teachers won't be able to teach one on one or small groups. Children won't be able to work with partners or small groups. Children won't be able to get out of their seats at all.

Teaching remotely has been VERY challenging for teachers. I've heard it compared to "flying the jet while building the jet." That sounds pretty accurate to me!

Yet, remember the #1 rule of life that I hear over and over: Safety First! Yes, there is a very contagious disease out there. Yes, children are known carriers. Yes, many people are at risk because of underlying medical conditions. Yes, many teachers are afraid to go back to school because they're afraid of getting very sick and/ or dying.

 

They WILL fall behind... in some ways. 

Between last spring, when teachers were suddenly expected to "reinvent the wheel" in a weekend, and this fall, with lots of practice and professional development training, lot of improvements have been made to the world of remote teaching. Between remote learning, in class learning, or even a combination of the two, education won't be the same as it was in its "pre-covid" state.

Students have lost some momentum in their academic development. And yes, no matter what we do, more slowing of development will happen. It can't be helped.

 

We can help them make gains in other ways. 

Teachers will try to keep the students moving forward academically. You can count on that. That's the nature of teachers. 

But we also need to keep them moving forward in other ways. Whether they are in school or working remotely, there will be gaps. They won't be getting the social development that students normally get in school, talking to their peers every day. Creative teachers can use a variety of ways to get children to talk about their social needs, their feelings, and their fears. I hope morning meetings are a part of everyone's day, as this is the place for team building and building social relationships. 

And take the time to work on some of these life skills.

 

As you know most of these skills can be developed through Morning Meeting.In class or through remote learning.

 A positive attitude is essential!

 No matter how tough it gets, no matter how challenging it is to keep up with all the technology, no matter how negative people are around us, no matter how scared we are, that positive attitude will get us through. Hold your head high, and give it your all for the kids. After all, it's all about them!

 

 It WILL Get better.

Yes, it's going to be tough, but it's not forever. I don't know when, but we'll have classrooms full of children, and they'll be able to talk and laugh and get out of their seats. They'll go to lunch, and Phys. Ed. and Music class. It will be OK!