Whatever Happened to Common Courtesy?

Whatever happened to common courtesy?

It's a strange world out there. Many people are caught up in some very angry politics, and the children are seeing it all. Don't you miss common courtesy?

As elementary teachers, we know that social-emotional learning is just as important as academic instruction. One of the simplest, yet most powerful ways to create a positive classroom culture is by modeling common courtesy. (I genuinely believe modeling is the best way to teach pretty much everything!) When we consistently demonstrate respect, kindness, and consideration, our students learn these essential life skills by example.

What is Common Courtesy?

Common courtesy includes everyday acts of respect and politeness, such as saying “please” and “thank you,” listening attentively, and treating others with kindness. These small actions help build strong relationships, foster community, and create a welcoming classroom environment where all students feel valued. Hopefully, these actions are "common" in every classroom!

Ways to Model Common Courtesy in the Classroom

1. Use Polite Language

Teachers know that students will mirror how we speak, so it's important to use polite language in every interaction. Simple phrases like “Good morning,” “Excuse me,” “May I help you?” and “Thank you for waiting” set the tone for respectful communication. Using polite language seems so simple, yet it really teaches children how to respect each other!

2. Listen with Full Attention

When a student speaks, model active listening by making eye contact, nodding, and responding thoughtfully. Avoid interrupting, and let students finish their thoughts before you reply. This teaches them that their words matter and encourages them to listen attentively to others. It's a good idea to discuss how to listen with full attention with the children, and model with them what it looks like.

3. Show Appreciation

Express gratitude to students regularly for their efforts. Saying “Thank you for helping clean up” or “I appreciate how you included your friend in the game” reinforces positive behavior and encourages students to acknowledge others’ kindness. Encourage them to do this with each other as well!

4. Apologize When Necessary

Teachers are human, too! If you make a mistake or speak too quickly, own it. Saying, “I’m sorry for interrupting you. Please continue,” shows students that apologizing is a sign of strength and respect. They can't see enough of this, can they?

5. Hold Doors and Offer Help

Small acts of kindness, such as holding the door for a student or helping a child pick up dropped supplies, go a long way in demonstrating courtesy. These actions show that being thoughtful of others is an everyday habit.

6. Promote a Culture of Respect

Make common courtesy a classroom expectation by setting clear norms and modeling them daily. Create a class pledge or poster with phrases like “We say please and thank you,” “We listen when others speak,” and “We treat everyone with kindness.”

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Final Thoughts

Students learn best by watching the adults around them. By consistently modeling common courtesy, you’re shaping respectful students and creating a positive, inclusive classroom environment where everyone feels valued. Small actions make a big impact—so let’s lead by example and inspire kindness daily!

How do you model courtesy in your classroom? Share your thoughts in the comments below!